Disturbed? Why That’s a Good Thing.
Let me disturb you for a moment. Maybe longer.
Because being disturbed can not only take us out of safety and security, but in the process rescue us from the same safety and security that (conveniently) holds us back.
And we are a culture of convenience. If not convenient — we tune out, or ignore. But not when a disturbance occurs — one that personally disturbs us.
A disturbance can take our life and work to the next level. It can bring us to the pursuit of better, bolder, and show us what it means to conquer a challenge.
When a disturbance takes place, it usually serves to put us on notice — and give us a wake-up call. In a moment, everything can change due to things getting stirred up.
This can be a very good thing.
If we don’t avoid or ignore the disturbance.
I think most of us are stirred, or shaken, and respond impulsively, either by word, or action. Actually, the best action to take… is to ponder. We don’t ponder enough — we’ve become an impulsive society — on so many levels.
And going through a personal disturbance can be related to a whole host of factors involving relationship(s), work, health, weather, or a situation that changes suddenly. And this is where we can benefit if we choose to pay attention — and ponder, first — before doing anything else.
Granted, in the midst of certain severe disturbances of life, just getting through it is all we can do — one day at a time. Yet, we learn so much through good, and tough experiences, most of which isn’t processed until later.
Most disturbances of life are not that severe, so we are able to pay more attention to what the cause of the disturbance is, and leverage for our (ultimate) benefit.
What are some examples, you ask?
a) Think about work situations and challenges — projects or people.
b) Consider family events, discussions and/or misunderstandings.
c) What about mishaps, accidents, and decisions we encounter that stir things up in our life personally, or with our work.
In addition, disturbances that stir us to more thought — more action — can be those that are not directly related to us. They could be disturbances that take place in other parts of the world, and in the lives of others. And somehow, because of what naturally catches our attention (what we are individually wired to notice) that disturbance causes sparks to fly — either in our emotions, thoughts, or actions.
Here is the key.
Always think before reacting. A reaction can cause unintentional consequences — which can take a long time to recover from.
My husband is better at being pro-active. He is helping me to think through, and consider the circumstances and other factors involved — in order to take a step or action that makes a positive impact. The tendency for most of us is to impulsively react, until the point at which we finally realize the “folly of our ways”.
choose not to react.
This is hard for most.
Because the natural tendency is to react, out of emotion and impulse — and that’s risky. Things are said, and done, that can (and do) wreak havoc on us — and others. The impulsive actions get us into more trouble than we ever intended.
Thoughtful, processed, intentional — words and actions — result in positive outcomes.
We see this in world events, and in personal circumstances.
So why do we react, rather than act by considering the possible outcomes? Well, that’s the million-dollar question. And I have no answer, except to emphasize prior points. We have tremendous benefit in training ourselves to ponder, consider and think — before we act. And that means... to think about multiple possible outcomes based on the direction or action we take.
When disturbed, consider how this can become a good, and positive (ultimately) by understanding the following:
1. Why does this disturb me?
2. What are the various outcomes that could take place as a result of this disturbance (good and bad)?
3. How can I respond that will result in the most positive outcome, ultimately, for all concerned?
Follow through. Dare to go, and be, and to do so — differently.
When we do, we reap better outcomes, by responding to what disturbs us with “all things considered”.
Intention. It’s what we miss, all too often — and end up paying, royally, for the mis-intended reaction.
If you’re disturbed about something — that’s likely a good thing, or can be.
I dare us, to think, before we act.
Here’s hoping for more intent in our life and work in the midst of the inevitable disturbances.
Until next time,